I have been struggling for the last, um... 3 1/2 years whether I want to add another sweet little boy to my family (aah,,I'm good at boys). I just can't get brave enough to do it all over again. So I decided to make a pros and cons list of pregnancy, birth, and the first hazy months of the little one's life. (Don't worry, it isn't too graphic.)
Pro--I get to eat what I want (within reason) and not worry about it
Con--I feel ginormous/get stretch marks and end up with a flabby belly
Pro--Chad thinks I look darling pregnant
Pro--The attention is fun
Con--NAUSEA---constant
Con--Sciatic Nerve pain. I would rather deal with nausea
Pro--Breasties
Con--Saggy Breasties when done with nursing
Pro--Fun maternity clothes
Con--The same fun maternity clothes over and over and over
Pro--Fuller face--I like my body now, but my face is too skinny (I look older and wrinkly)
Con--big body to go with fuller face
Pro--I don't get kankles
Pro--I never go full term--Cam 10 days early, Spencer 26 days early (and healthy)
Pro--Nesting!!! I love to nest---My cupboards and closets haven't been organized in 3 1/2 years. I actually feel the nesting instinct quite often, but it is anxiety-driven rather than pregnancy-driven
Con--Insomnia
Pro--It gives me empathy for Chad's insomnia
Con--Fatigue
Pro--2nd trimester energy
Con--Labor--damn, that hurts
Pro--Epidurals--damn, that feels better
Pro--Mother-in-law is a Labor and Delivery nurse--and she knows her shiz
Con--Almost 2 hours of pushing with Cam
Pro--About 20 seconds of pushing with Pence
Pro--I love the hospital stay!!! I love the quiet, reading, naps, visits from fam and friends, snuggling with a new sleepy baby
Con--Nurses checking vitals in the middle of the night. I just want to say, "Hey, I know you are just doing your job, but would you please leave my hospital-issue-meshy-stretchy-underwear alone!! My who-ha is just fine!"
Pro--Speaking of who-ha's --Peri bottle with warm water--mmmmm soothing
Con--Learning to nurse with Cam
Pro--Much easier with Spence
Con--Coming home---Holy Cow, that's a shock
Con--NO SLEEP
Pro--Watching Chad relish every moment with his babies...One of us has to like newborns
Con--Postpartum depression hitting like a ton of bricks
Pro--Zoloft baby!!! I will be popping them like candy from 34 weeks on,,,,it's nice to not fantasize about harming your child (scary)
Pro--All the crappy stuff mentioned above eventually does go away
I just re-read my list and wow, I AM an optimist--there are a lot more pros that I would have thought,,seeing as how I LOATHE pregnancy. I just need to buck-up and do my part to repopulate the earth.